Well this post is VERY late, but we have been EXTREMELY busy! It all started in January.... We received a call the of January and were told that we had been selected by a birth mother. Finally, the call we had been waiting for! They presented us with all the information of the birth family and the last thing they told us was...and she's due the end of February! I'm sorry...when? Did you say February!? As in one month from now? We couldn't believe it was finally happening, and so fast! Our minds were racing with all the things we would have to do before HE got here, if we went on to match. We made plans to drive to Texas to meet the birth mother that weekend. One week from the initial phone call we had met and were officially matched! Our son would be arriving in less than one month, and we had a lot to get ready. That week we started painting the nursery and registering for gifts. Shower planning was in full speed, and pinterest was being overwhelmed with pins of baby planning and shower ideas by our friends and family. We were given three showers in a two week period :) It was awesome, but still hard to believe it was happening. Before we knew it the month was gone and we were headed back to Texas to meet our little guy.
We stood in the hallway nervous, scared, and overwhelmed. Then we heard it. The most precious little cry I've ever heard! All we could do is cry and hug as we waited to meet the sweet little guy that had just made our hearts leap. Minutes later that's just what we did. He was so beautiful and tiny and innocent. He was handed to me and all I could do was look at him and think "Is this really happening?" This is something we have waited for years to have, almost six to be exact. We have wanted to be parents for so long and at times wondered if it would ever happen for us. Yet here we were holding this beautiful baby boy ready to be loved and cared for. We were able to watch his first bath, change his diaper, give him a bottle, and take care of him the first night of his life. It was wonderful and we were already in love! We spent the next week doing the same thing in a hotel room in Texas. We got to have our time together as a family of three, but we did miss our family too. On his 1 week old birthday we got the call we had been waiting for. We were told we could go home! We started packing immediately and headed towards Tennessee. Little man did great in the car, and it all seemed real as we headed home together. Once we got home we got to share him with all his grandparents, aunts, and cousins :) We have been getting used to being parents and loving every minute of it. He is the most awesome, beautiful baby that we love to hold, cuddle, and kiss. Our journey has been amazing and God definitely picked this little guy for us. We love him so much and are so happy to have our little family.
We want to thank everyone that helped to get him here! We have talked about the yard sale, pancake breakfast, and everything all of you have done a lot since his arrival. You will never know how much your love and support has done for us and our family.
I want to take this opportunity to help everyone see into the world of adoption a little better. For some reason everyone wants to think the birth mother just doesn't want her baby. So many times I've heard "so does she just not want him or what? I just don't understand how people could give up their child". This may occasionally be the case, but I dare say it rarely is. A birth mother is a person who truly loves her baby. Someone that is willing to choose a very difficult path because she feels it is in the best interest of her baby. She is putting the baby's needs above her own desires. She is willing to put her body through nearly ten months of pregnancy knowing she will not get to raise her baby the way she wants. But she loves him so much that she seeks out adoptive parents that can give him what she wants him to have. This is a hard choice to make and definitely not the choice for someone who doesn't care about her baby. So please be careful with your words or preconceived notions about birth parents:) They are such special people and deserve to be supported for their decision. We have been so blessed because of our birth mothers choice. Our baby is loved by so many!
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